Friday, December 31, 2010

New Years Resolution

This year I'm doing something called a 30 day goal challenge.
I'm going to write down my current weight, and then my goal weight i want to acheive for february 1st.
i'm going to do whatever i can to meet my goal! this is a short-term New Years Resolution I thought I'd share.
You guys can do it too! feel free to leave a comment with your start weight and your goal weight.
let me begin!:

SW: 122
GW:115

Tuesday, December 28, 2010

Mia to Ana; Hungry as Hell

So you're probably wondering why I'm not bulimic anymore... its just a temporary thing, I promise you (and myself!) that.
Last night I was trying to purge and I was having a difficult time doing so all day. Usually when I have a hard time, I just chug whiskey or gin straight until I gag and then purge. It works everytime.
Unfortunately I couldn't sneak any booze because of guests. So i tried extra hard, when i did I hit the back of my throat HARD. My body froze for a minute, and I started bleeding - the bleeding didn't last very long, and there was only about an ounce (shotglass) worth. It was scary as hell though.
The back of my throat hurts so bad and is so swollen... I'm scared to purge. So I'm dieting strictly, starting today.
Today I've only had a little yogurt cup and a serving of scrambled eggs and veggies. Im doing well so far, but im hungry again... so im going to go to the kitchen and eat an apple or orange. then im going to work out!
wish me luck guys... the next week or so is going to be really difficult for me. So I'll be writing posts in here regularily. Last time I weighed myself nekked I was 122.2 now I'm 122.6... damnit! Oh well, i understand that as I begin to work out more often, the number on the scale may get higher. I'm willinging to go through that, just as long as my measurements go down...

34.5-26-37
yeah!!!

Saturday, December 25, 2010

Holiday Cheer and Fighting Decay

So the last few days have been pretty good for me.
I've been so busy with my family I haven't had time to zone out on my laptop at all
So i finally come here with the time to post about my holiday.
It has been pretty good, I've managed to actually lose a pound!
Whenever I ate a family dinner, i would just take small amounts of my favourite foods - and i spread them across my plate so it looked like a lot of food. then when eating the food, I'd have a glass of wine with it - i would take a small bite, then a sip of wine. its the only way i really enjoy drinking wine, really.
I also found it relatively easy to purge the past two days.
Last night was xmas eve, and because there wasn't a lock on the bathroom door i didn't risk purging there. I saved the chocolate and high-fattening stuff to eat for right before i left. as soon as i got home, my parents were too busy watching a xmas movie to pay attention to what i was doing so i went and purged. nobody suspected a thing!
just tonight the celebration was at my place. this made it pretty easy for me because i have all the hygeine care i need here. so i followed the same pattern and nobody could hear a thing over the celebration.
After the family left, I got on here to post on this. I also did some research about what some of the people at the ED society were wondering about.
I googled "ways to counteract tooth decay in an acidic diet" and i got thise webpage:
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2008/02/080205204535.htm
basically, translated to information you guys can use, its best to brush your teeth BEFORE purging. then, after you done, make sure you rinse your mouth out well with water or even better, a flouride mouthwash. i prefer mine without alchohol. It says doing this will help reduce the amount of erosion caused by acid but if you brush your teeth after you have a chance of wearing down the enamel because the acid softens it, and the bristles wear down on it. this was very helpful for me!

In my other world, things with the man... I'm still breaking up with him. I'm going to give back the present he bought me so he can use the money to get ahead. an issue that i never thought about before was his parents. they are some of the nicest people i know and they care about me - they'v shown it time and time again. I hope this break up doesn't hurt them

but other than that, these past few days have been great. they've been busy too, and i've enjoyed spending time with family. life is pretty good, and it finally feels as if things are starting to come together again

Wednesday, December 22, 2010

Lost Love Inwards and Out

Today has been a weird day for me. it would just seem ordinary but the theme has been strange.
I found myself daydreaming about what it would be like to be single again. I want to be so bad.
The problem is, i tried dumping my boyfriend for the hundreth time this year. I don't get why he won't take no for an answer. He always says "you'll regret this later, don't do this" or "you know you don't actually mean that, you're just pissed off" or "you can't leave me. I'm not losing you"
I don't get this at all. you think that after the second or maybe even third time someone would understand they're not wanted?
As you can plainly tell, I don't love him anymore. I say it back on the phone, but only because he'll scream if i don't. I'm lying to both of us here, i must leave him.
He's not the only one I don't love anymore. The amount of self-esteem I've lost from this relationship is unbelievable. Everytime I look in the mirror, I wonder why I wasn't good enough. Why he needed to be with all those other women. And why I continued letting him control me like this. I've just wanted my life back and to be able to be myself, not who he wants me to be (which isn't good enough, by the way). I've obsessed over my weight and measurements because it is what I can control, I can't control the fact that I'm not tall enough to be a model. I can control what I do though, which is one thing I've learned. So I lose weight and I purge. I keep on doing it until I feel satisfied, but I've created a monster now. I used to be confident and independant, now I have nothing. I know it's my fault that this relationship has carried on this long and I want to hurt myself because of it. I want to cut, or burn. But I've never cut before, and I don't want to get it wrong; I don't want to end up in the hospital or dead. I just want to stop feeling this pain and guilt, I want to feel like I have control over my life again. I want him gone, and I want my body to be free of scars when he leaves.

5'6"
34.5-26-37
BMI: 20.3

Thursday, December 16, 2010

Getting Up After a Fall

So today was a pretty stressful day for me.
Today was the 15th (I'm just still awake... just thinkin n stuff). In case I hadn't shared earlier, today was the day my boyfriend moved out.
It was really a tough one, he didn't really have a place to go, but he was using me and my family and he was being abusive. i guess the hardest part is thinking of all the good times we have had together, which is why a part of me wanted him to stay, but the rest wanted him to go. he was so awful to me the last week or two, he would come home at midnight drunk, pin me to the couch and yell in my face for a few hours. he would guilt trip me for not letting him stay, telling me its why he's so stressed out. i know for sure that he isn't the type of person i want to spend my life with, or even very much longer. i hope that spending time apart will make this break easier for me.
But that hasn't been all I've been thinking about, of course. I've lately been thinking about how much mia is doing for me, good and bad. I think about the confidence i feel when i put on a cute little outfit, how my clothes look so much better on me now. but i also think about the "brainwashing" that eating disorders do. they constantly make me feel fat and insignificant, they destroy my confidence as much as they boost it. it's like being bipolar. i guess that is the best way to put it. I took a week or so to take a bit of a breather from mia. i didnt stop completely but just enough to give myself a break. lately i've been having issues with my stomach and throat, i have ulcers now i'm pretty sure. It feels like im in pain constantly, but it's a nice change from the pains i go through regularily, whether they're caused from my relationship or memories that are just resurfacing now.
i think my biggest realization today was that you can't help somebody who doesn't want to help themselves. and sometimes, a push (big or little) just isn't enough. sometimes you need to kick someone when they're down if it means they'll want to get back up again. i guess some people may have think they've hit they're bottom, and life couldn't get any worse. they get so caught up in feeling awful that they forget to do what's right to get ahead. so sometimes, the only way you can help a person in this situation is to move them down further so they actually do something for themselves. you know you've hit the true bottom when all you can go is up. i know exactly how this feels, where he is and what it's like, which is why i saved it as a last resort. I hope he does what is right for him so it makes it easier to do what's right for me!

Tuesday, November 30, 2010

New Tips and Epiphany about Cheating Boyfriend

Okay so today was a weird day, it ended well though.
I managed to purge successfully again, which is old news but after visiting my fav pro mia site http://www.proeatingdisordersociety.yuku.com/ i realized that i had strategies i totally forgot about. they had to do with hand care and teeth care.
First (and most important!) TEETH CARE.
i find that brushing my teeth right after helps them a lot. i make sure that i dont brush my teeth more than 3 times a day though, my dentist chewed me out for that. also, they havent noticed any sign of tooth decay whatsoever! (even though i've been mia for over 2 years!). however, the most important part is mouthwash, and using it properly. I use a non-alchoholic crest mouthwash, it works well at covering up the smell, rinsing off residue, keeping my teeth white and shiny, and it doesn't burn!
Secondly (important during the winter!) HAND CARE
I moisturize my hands one a day. however, they used to get really cracked the past 2 winters. so when they got cracked i would clean them with hydrogen peroxide or rubbing alchohol after purging then slather on aloe vera or vaseline and leave it on for 1-2 hours. this would revitalise them so they didnt hurt so bad :). you can also use the vaseline overnight if you put a sock over your hand so it doesnt smear all over your sheets.

And about the cheating boyfriend, I've been datng a guy for almost two years now. He used to cheat on me a lot and somehow he always managed to manipulate me back into the relationship. However, I'm done with his lies - I'm kicking him out of my place and am going to leave him for good. We already have a date set for him to be out by. But one thing that i realised about our relationship, is that i stopped caring somewhere along the way. i stopped trying to trust him again because i didn't care. the epiphany that i realised was, that if he was going to cheat on me, there would be nothing i could ever do to stop him. All i can ever do is be me and hope my future significant other will accept me for who i am and not desire anyone else. I know my relationship with him is screwed forever, there's nothing left for us to do to make things better. I found out that the best way to find out if he's cheating is to pretend that i trust him, and act like i never snoop or try to read into his actions. That way, he'll let his guard down and the truth will come out again.
It's only a matter of time until i find up what hes really up to, and its only another 2 weeks until he's moving out.
I'm so close to being free again. I can't wait until I can do what I want and need to do for myself again, instead of only doing what he tells me to.

Saturday, November 27, 2010

First blog!

OKAY so first of all i want to state that i have freedom of speech so i can express my viewpoints here on this page. if you like it, keep reading, if not, then leave.
I am here to share with you my experiences with bulimia and how to do it without killing yourself in the process. I decided to do it so i could lose weight, i'm not doing this as a form of self-harm so if you are or are thinking of doing that this wont be the site for you.

Okay, so now I will begin...
The last few days have been rough for eating. My low-carb diet has crashed and burned for sure. Over the last 24 hours i managed to eat a bag of sour candy, two boxes of nerds and 5 lindor chocolates. So much for cutting out sugar too! BTW i'm a total chocoholic, i need it every day or i get grumpy lol
i took a break away from mia for the last few days cause i got carried away earlier this week. i find that if i do it too often it stops working, so i just stopped. I'm never going to be a model if i keep this up!
One thing that i noticed that helps with purging today is whisky. and i dont mean get sideways-hammered but just put a little in a glass and drink it right before hand. whisky has always made me gag, honestly i'd rather drink 151 rum straight than whisky (even the super-expensive kind!). urgh. i also noticed today that one thing that helps increase my motivation is pictures of supermodels.
Idk i feel kinda lonely on this site, i dont really know anyone here lol so if you read this, and you like it, just keep on following. i should come up with some better things to say as time goes by.